Discomfort or distraction?

It helps to reflect whether what I am engaging with is me working with a discomfort or if I am distracting myself avoiding the necessary discomfort.

Love or fear?

It helps to identify if I am doing something to avoid facing a fear or doing it from a place of love.

Connection or correction?

It forces me to question what my overarching intention with someone I am having a difficult conversation with is.

Inspiration: NVC Trainer Manasi Saxena introduced me to this question in her introduction to Nonviolent Communication session.

What question feels important to me?

This seems to work for anything you want to reflect on.

Inspiration: My good friend Duncan would use this question regularly in the beginning of reflective group conversations.